Unless it is their design to be so.
Gang, most of my posts include some sort of vignette from my painful life.
Well, to be honest, most of it was not painful, but there are places where one might say “wow!”.
And, hopefully, the end of whatever piece I compose feels better than the beginning…
So with that, I will mention something that helps you out or affirms you.
And, soon enough, my exegesis of Matthew will continue.
With that, let’s dive in….
My father, as many of y’all know, was not interested in a family for most of his life.
And when it came to me, because I acted less traditionally masculine, but more feminine, he didn’t allow me to help him in the garage when I was a kid.
And later on in his life, when I tried anything other than a superficial conversation with him, he changed the subject, or redirected, or excused himself, or ignored me.
That sort of nonsense does not help.
So, I spent years living in agreement with a lie that “if I am more masculine, I will be accepted”.
But here is the problem with that mindset, if you can accept it. And this is really going to sound weird.
But it may provide some better framing to the alternative sexuality lifestyle culture.
If we understand that some masculine and feminine can mean “giving” and “receiving”, respectively, and that some men may present as more feminine as some women may present as more masculine, we might have an opportunity to frame the conversation better.
What if more masculine women really aren’t born wrong, but are more designed to give or provide, and vice versa with more feminine men being designed to be tender and receive?
So it’s not an issue of, I must be designed for an alternative lifestyle, but I am equipped for more receiving or giving.
Further, what if we are each some mix of giving and receiving and are thus designed to interact with both masculinity and femininity on some level?
“Freely you have received; freely give.”
What if Jesus is presenting masculine dynamics and feminine dynamics because we are made to be conduits of the grace of G-d, and some of us need to learn the dynamic that does not square with our presenting sex?
What if we need to stop forcing people into one sexual box or another?
What if we just need to let people be WHATEVER G-d designed them to be, and they should just be what they are designed to be?
What if He made more tender men to help those tender or soft-hearted and mistreated women work through some of their issues of being mistreated at home as kids, and vice versa?
What if He made some men or women to be more assertive because they will help a partner who was also made to be assertive come alive after having been mishandled as a child and forced into a box of passivity?
What if people who were bashed by abusive authorities need someone who is tender to just love them to a place of wholeness?
And what if someone who has been beaten to passivity needs someone who will unswervingly cheer them on?
And what if all it will take for that man or woman to reach their destiny is a loving and supportive friend?
What if some men are made to be more sensitive and some women are made to be more aggressive?
What if the problem isn’t “make men more masculine” or “make women more feminine”, but “allow people to execute based on their design.”?