From the Desk of Arthur Burk: The Egyptian Heresy

Arthur writes for those not familiar with this topic from the SLG vantage point.

EGYPTIAN HERESY

I got an email today from someone trying to explain this to his church leadership and he asked for a bit more help. I decided to post here, since others might benefit from the explanation.

First of all, it is a term I invented. Each member of the Trinity is directly attacked with a perversion of their essence.

I call the perversion of the work of God the Father, the Edomite Heresy, the perversion of the work of Jesus Christ, the Babylonian Heresy and the perversion of the work of the Holy Spirit, the Egyptian Heresy.

We understand the Holy Spirit to be the mediator of the power of God to change the “laws of nature.” We call it a miracle when someone who is sick with cancer, and should die, according to the normal operation of the medical dynamics, is healed.

The Holy Spirit has full permission to change the laws of science for the glory of God, any time the Spirit wants.

The devil counters that by changing the laws of science for evil purposes. For example, take this verse.

2Co 11:14 And no wonder, for Satan himself masquerades as an angel of light. NIV

For those who are practitioners of what is called “Egyptian spirituality” (ten millions hits on Google), their own description of it is “inside out, upside down, backwards.”

One manifestation of the Egyptian Heresy is in the health sector. In terms of medical issues we look for reversed outcomes.

I spoke with a pastor whose wife had been a vegan for 20 years and her cholesterol level was at 600. This is aberrant — an outcome that is opposite of her lifestyle and what we would expect from the laws of science.

I asked whether there was any Freemasonry in her family line and found a 33rd degree Mason as her father. Freemasonry is deeply vested in Egyptian spirituality.

Simply speaking, when I find an effect that is the opposite of what the cause should have been, I expect to find either the Holy Spirit doing a miracle or the devil using some form of Egyptian heresy to pervert the structures God has put in place.

From the Desk of Arthur Burk: Spiritual Authority In America

Spiritual Authority in America
I woke up on Wednesday morning, February 6th, quite angry. I scanned the horizon for a cause. 

I had gone to bed well.  No ugly dreams.  Woke up after nine hours.  Not too shabby! 

Checked emails to see if one of my peeps was in trouble.  Didn’t see anything.

I gingerly made my way to work, keeping a tight cork on the volcano so no innocent people got buried in lava.

Finally, I realized that I was feeling the nation.  The night before, the President gave his State of the Union Address and across the political spectrum, the responses were framed around hate with an intent to exacerbate the deep divisions we face.

From the bar to the boardroom, reconciliation and collaboration are not in vogue. SA-Quote1.jpg

The cultural climate today very much resembles the ramp-up to the Civil War. 

In 1844 James Polk was a dark horse candidate who won the election on a Democratic ticket, defeating Henry Clay the Whig.  Polk worked hard to establish legitimacy in office by changing tariffs, negotiating international treaties, reforming the banking industry and challenging Mexico.

President Polk wanted the southwest portion of the continent and Mexico showed no desire to cede it on any terms.  In spite of warnings from Mexico, Texas was annexed by the US in a fairly sloppy manner which led to an ambiguous border. 

Polk – and many Americans – desperately wanted war with Mexico for political and economic purposes.  He deliberately moved some American troops into the contested land along the border. 

On April 25, 1846, the Mexican cavalry bit on the bait and attacked the Americans, killing a dozen or so.

President Polk cranked up the political rhetoric with his proclamation to Congress that America’s “cup of forbearance has been exhausted, even before Mexico passed the boundary of the United States, invaded our territory, and shed American blood upon American soil.”SA-Quote2.jpg

Congress obliged with a declaration of war, even though many northern Congressmen had issues with it.  The invasion of Mexico (an Exhorter nation) by “Old Fuss and Feathers” (an Exhorter general) was successful.  The Treaty of Guadalupe Hidalgo was a travesty, but it ceded the Southwest and California to the US on February 2, 1848.

As predicted by the political observant of the time, this treaty disrupted the tenuous balance of power over the slavery issue and effectively triggered the Civil War 13 years later. 

The defining tone of the rhetoric in that season leading up to the Civil War was hatred, personal demeaning and a deliberate focus on peripheral issues, instead of careful conversation about the core issues.  Whenever possible, complex issues were reduced to a simplistic right/wrong litmus test of political orthodoxy.

The same is true today.  Congressmen and women invited highly adversarial people as their guests at the SOTU, in order to fan the flames of division.  The press was extraordinary in seeking out sound bites that could be framed to offend.  And so, anger was empowered over our nation.

SA-Quote5.jpgLeading up to the Civil War, religion was part of the problem, not the solution.  The Presbyterians, Baptists and Methodist all split their denominations over the issue.

In his epic Second Inaugural Address, Lincoln commented on that paradox.  

“Each looked for an easier triumph, and a result less fundamental and astounding.  Both read the same Bible and pray to the same God, and each invokes His aid against the other.  It may seem strange that any men should dare to ask a just God’s assistance in wringing their bread from the sweat of other men’s faces, but let us judge not, that we be not judged.  The prayers of both could not be answered.  That of neither has been answered fully.  The Almighty has His own purposes.”

SA-Quote6.jpgToday there are passionate citizens in our Tribe who believe Donald Trump is God’s man, doing a majestic piece of work.  

There are others who are horrified at the man and consider him a plague on the earth.

And, as in the pre-Civil War era, civilized debate is hard to come by.  Positions are settled.  Tempers are hot.  Words are absolute.  Relationships are fragile in the light of the radicalization of thought and the normalization of rejection and alienation.

In other words, we are positioning ourselves well for something awful if the inflammatory debate continues to escalate. 

What is the alternative?

I start with the Curse of Jotham.  Jotham appealed to God.  God agreed with His complaint and the two sides in the subsequent localized civil war destroyed each other.  And that is what happened with America.  The slaves cried out to God for justice.  He heard.  And America lost over 600,000 people in direct deaths during our Civil War in addition to an incalculable collateral damage to the nation.

Compare that with 400,000 US deaths in WWII.

It behooves each leader in the Tribe to revisit the abundance of passages in Scripture about leaders who abuse those under them.  The American church has chewed up and spit out a stupendous number of people in the last 50 years. 

We will have no moral or spiritual authority when we have not handled leadership authority with integrity.

SA-Quote8.jpgSecond, the crisis was triggered by illegitimacy in fact, but was rooted in illegitimacy of the spirit. 

Abimelech was the son of a concubine, not one of Gideon’s many wives.  Illegitimate.

 But the core issue was Gideon’s legitimacy struggles.   In spite of all the drama leading up to the battle with     the Midianites and the enormity of the victory over   them, he still lacked legitimacy.

That is why he demanded as booty enough gold to make himself an ephod – a priestly garment. God had called him to military and political leadership.  In that place, God would bless him.

When he reached for legitimacy through spiritual posturing, it became toxic for the entire nation.  

So each individual needs to explore his own basis for legitimacy.  To the degree that we use spiritual posturing to prop up a deficient sense of legitimacy, to that degree we will have no moral or spiritual authority in the nation.

Finally is the issue of rights and responsibilities.  The anger throughout our nation, on the right and the left, is rooted in a focus on rights. 

SA-Quote9.jpgNo matter what the issue, whether personal or global, the bias toward rights inflames debate.  Nowhere do you see that more clearly than the great religious debates.  Few of them are directed by builders, doers, people deeply invested in their personal responsibility.

Today, more and more Christians opt out of voting.  Most opt out of researching judges and obscure issues.  Few believers understand the electoral process and fewer still have bothered to ever attend a precinct meeting.  And hardly any could name two city officials in the town where they live – much less the issues facing them.

Next time someone scalds you for having a political view that they don’t share, walk away from the conflict and look inside to see where you could raise the bar on your own personal responsibility as a citizen. 

My belief is that the external climate is going to continue to spiral down for a period of time.

It behooves us as believers to be seriously concerned about raising the level of our spiritual authority.

 

That comes one choice at a time, not one argument at a time.

 

Arthur Burk
February 2019

Conversation with Eric Hatch This Morning On The Purpose of the Gospel

Some distilled thoughts from my interaction with Eric, with whom I am studying a deep dive of Luke’s gospel.

There is a level of reality that G-d gives to us not so that we can merely engage in higher criticism, but just so that we might have life.
One of the most important things I learned is the difference between historic fact and scientific fact.
 
We understand that 2+2=4, and we understand that water is two atoms of hydrogen combined with one atom of oxygen. That is testable.
 
Scripture is not science. It is not testable the way science is. It is history.
 
The reality is that the Bible is a form of propaganda. It is trying to propagate a message, and that message is really good news: namely that news is, Jesus came to give life and redeem.
 
There are things that are verifiable in the Gospel, but those things are not merely science. There is a deep difference.
 
History, if it actually happened, you can see that it happened, but you cannot repeat it.
 
We don’t create clones of FDR to prove FDR existed.
 
The purpose of the gospel is not to be able to repeat or prove it scientifically, but to rather RECEIVE it, and, by it, RECEIVE LIFE and TRANSFORMATION.
Bottom line: the purpose of the Gospel is to transform and give life, not to repeat or prove what happened.

Blemishes on the Skin

I was reading Leviticus 13, and then it dawned on me.

“You have leprosy.”

Now to frame this, I don’t actually carry any form of physical Hansen’s Disease or anything that the Scripture deals with when it discusses various forms of leprosy.

But here is the punch line and the principle. I have been carrying something that has gnawed at me and has negatively affected how I present to others, and it does not reflect well.

I understand that there might be those that say “what does presentation matter?  G-d allows us to come as we are (oftentimes taken to mean, any old way we damn well please).

And ther are others that might say, “yes, we present our best to G-d”, complete with the religious spirit of dressing in a suit or summer dress for Easter and looking down one’s nose at anyone else who should dare to wear anything resembling shorts, t-shirts, or flip-flops.

And yet both miss the mark.

ἕκαστος ἐν τῷ ἰδίῳ νοῒ πληροφορείσθω.  Let everyone be fully convinced in their own thought (Romans 14:5).

Again with the Romans passage, how many times will David continue to harp on that old horse?

Until each and everyone quits measuring the holiness of another by outward appearance, festal holidays, celebrations, and personal convictions on matters of conscience.

Now, with that under our belts, consider this thought.

How many of us carry something that, for years, Father has been on us about getting rid of?  How many of us have been hounded by the HOLY Spirit to drop that crappy thing that has been keeping us from a new level of HOLINESS.  He is the Spirit that wants to make us HOLY, and implement a new way of living in every aspect of our lives, such that our presence and fragrance cleans up that which is around us and not in alignment with G-d’s best.

How many of us have leprosy in our hearts, our minds (brain rot), our sexual lives, our skin and appearance and presentation, or our relationships, or even our reins?  What is toxifying our capacity to sanctify others so they can be the best versions of themselves?

What is holding each of us back?

That thing will keep the Priest from pronouncing us clean, gang.

Clean in order that we might proceed into that next season.

Lest we forget, sowing two different fabrics, or two different crops, or two different natures together causes the thing in question to become defiled.

G-d wants our essence to become 100% our essence.

We should be possessed of zeal toward those many ends, and transforming from glory to glory, and from strength to strength, from deep to deeper, and from everlasting to everlasting.

What is defiling you that is causing your spirit to cry out to others “UNCLEAN! UNCLEAN!”?

These are universal, non-optional, cause-and-effect relationships.

Just in case we forget, there is the next thing that Father wants to highlight and remove.

He wants us equipped both not to care when the fear of man may be the issue, and to care, when a lack of the fear of G-d may be the issue.  He wants fullness and the capacity to walk when we need to walk, in the manner in which we need to walk.

“To walk with kings yet not lose the common touch” (Rudyard Kipling).

To care when it is time to care. And to give no care when it is time to give no care.

Being held hostage to the taskmasters of either disdain for appearance, or vanity towards appearance are not our aim.

Rather, we ought, nay, we must needs, walk with a higher goal in view.

The fullness of capacity to walk as the context demands.

A Greek to the Greek, and a Jew to the Jew.

“There is nothing outside a person that by going into him can defile him, but the things that come out of a person are what defile him.”

What Holiness Actually Is

Let’s drop it with the amorphous trite Sunday School answers and get into something useful.

What is holy?

Holy doesn’t mean what we think it means.

It does not mean obedient servant.

We like to use our vocabulary and ideas of holiness to communicate something that is perfect. But that is such a lowball, Sunday School answer of what holiness is.

Holiness is not mere perfection, or merely free from sin.

It also includes implemented reality. That is, when something is holy, it is a sustainable system. Holiness it it’s extreme form means the item or entity in question is not just being in some etheral, otherworldly state, but it is accomplishing something transformational in the loves of what it touches.

“Being holy” therefore means you are implementing what G-d MADE YOU TO DO. It means execution of the highest order, and bringing others into contact with the Holy One who is deeply loving, deeply transformational Father of Lights.

That which is holy executed in connection with the Source of All Who Is Holy.

This is a present my friend got from his parents. It is a YETI cooler. Now, for those of you that don’t know, YETI products keep their encased products cold or hot for an extended period of time.

YETI products execute their job quite well. They provide a sustainable ecosystem that is disproportionate to the materials used.

Okay, gang, are you getting the picture.

You were made not just to be set apart, but rather, in your TRANSFORMED set-apartedness, to do something that is life-giving and a contribution to your setting. You are a holy (sustainable) system, ready to implement.

Not some POOR, MISERABLE, WRETCHED, BASTARD, WORM SINNER IN THE HANDS OF AN ANGRY G-D that he somehow deigns to tolerate and has to clean you out and put a shot of bleach into you in order to tolerate you and get rid of the daily stench.

We are commanded to regularly come before the throne of grace BOLDLY, NOT TIMIDLY OR FEARFULLY in order to find grace and help in our time of need. And our need is to be transformed daily so we can implement what we were made to implement.

Dude, Imma say this again. Get into the freaking car and drive off into all G-d has for you. Implement. The pictures of holiness-as-implementation are all around you.

You are not a 30-year old cracked Igloo.

You are a spanking new YETI.

#justdoit

What You Pay Taxes On, You Own: The Taxes of HOA Fees

Some thoughts occurred to me while hearing a friend talk about HOA fees. Those are below:

I will say this, if the HOA is headed by a witch and they choose to insert a hidden covenant within the HOA contract, then they and their demons are going to have their hands full while I partner with the King to strip them of their authority.

Covenants within contracts hammer believers regularly, and they don’t even realize it.

As you are living there, Mike, just be careful of how much you are accepting.

I would exhort you to place your, contacts on your dining room table, and if you discern the presence of predator spirits, then call those clowns the spirit and remind them that they do not own nor have legal rights to you, your paycheck, your household, or your possessions.

Here is a principle that most believers won’t have exercise when they are part of HOA’s because they don’t think it’s a big deal, and so they don’t bother and allow the enemy to snipe stuff that ain’t theirs: what you pay taxes on you own.

You pay taxes in the form of HOA fees/dues. Therefore you can use that legal right to start seeing change effected that is favorable to the Kingdom, if you want to use that route.

Shoot, if I was paying HOA fees, I would start calling that out.

Don’t leave any free money on the table, friend.

Love you [both].

Thoughts on Requiring Church

When institutional church is set up as a commandment, regardless of the level of commoditization, children are led to believe an institution is the arbiter of their legitimacy rather than the Most High G-d.

And if:

1) The church only legitimizes duty,

2) the church attaches worth only to the individual so long as they perform a necessary function vital to the life of the church,

3) the church refuses to seek helping the individual in unpacking their design, equipping them in their design, and releasing them to fulfill that design,

4) the church only instead wants the individual to contribute to the furtherance of the church’s agenda

5) the church has no culture of affection, culture of value for the inherent dignity of each individual, and culture of dignity for the identity of the individual, and

6) the church treats the individual as little more than a replaceable widget or number,

then obedience to a mechanical agenda becomes the end goal in sight, and the children as adults are taught to become little more than consumers or resellers instead of factories producing new truth.

And we start a vicious cycle all over again that only breaks when someone leaves that toxic cycle and embraces their design.

Church is meant to be the ultimate unpacker of design, not the ultimate machine to grind them up.

Setting your kids up to fail, honestly, is a matter of refusing to train them up in accordance with how their Father hardwired them and forcing them to fit into some preconceived ideal mold that has obedience as the end game.

And obedience is the task of slaves, rather than sons and friends, which is a contradiction of John 1:12, John 15:15-17, and Romans 8:16.

Concering All Who Have Become Pregnant, Either By Force Or By Choice: Abortion Won’t Fix The Problem, No Matter How Devastating

I was never much one for posting responses to abortion that only castigated women for not keeping their legs closed, not accounting for legit rape.

It’s only a partiplal solution, and I look for fullness in a solution.

So, here are some fuller, more nuanced thoughts.

Pertaining to babies and abortion, there are a couple of situations: those that choose to have sex, and those that have sex forced upon them:

If you are choosing to have sex, then one or more babies is/are likely going to come from that. No one is forcing a single or a couple to have a baby. That is the responsibility that comes with playing. So, have the kid, own your responsibility, or keep them in your pants.

If you did not choose to have sex, but it was forced on you, there is counseling that likely needs to be had, and.you have my sympathy (I am related to a number of rape victims), but killing what is growing inside of you, or could be, is not going to fix anything, but rather, it is going to make things worse.

As for the “deformed baby” argument, and “it’s only going to suffer” argument, I have one question. Do you honestly think you can keep ANYONE from suffering? As if we can prevent suffering by killing. We get dealt a hand, and we have to play THAT hand with savvy. You are suffering. I am suffering. Everybody suffers.

When a baby comes into being, and a sperm and an egg join, it is only because the Father of Lights, who dwells in eternal Majesty, determined that the hand that would be dealt to the resulting infant was worth playing as a weapon against the kingdom of darkness.

Playing that hand is a gambit.

But He is a Gambling Fool, recklessly so.

And we are tools and weapons in the King’s hands (Isaiah 54:16)

And we were designed to walk in temperence and a process that includes suffering for a season (Isaiah 54:1-15) in order to prevail against the kingdom of hell (Isaiah 54:17).

I have said it before, and I will say it again.

If you want the glory of Isaiah 54:17, then you must first pass through the fires and process of tempering of Isaiah 54:1-16.

For those who are rape victims, I am truly sorry, and though I cannot relate to you, I know the one who bore the weight of THAT injustice and conquered against it and its weight.

For those who chose sex, this is how it happens. The process. We we’re made to be fruitful and multiply.

And neither case is justification for telling G-d he is not allowed to play “that hand”.

Work through the wound with Him, but don’t fall for the deception that you can make a problem go away by taking something or killing something.

It does not work that way, and there is ALWAYS fallout from mishandling the gift inside of you, even if the circumstances sucked.

Just my tuppence.

#aweaponformedbytheblacksmith
#theparacleteshammer

Beth Moore, the Redemptive Gift Teacher Who Behaved Like An Fivefold Prophet, and the SBC, Who Has Spent Far Too Long Protecting Ministers With Wolvish Behavior

One of my relatives was sexually molested by a Southern Baptist pastor.

To this day, I have a strong distaste for men in positions of leadership in the church, and the level of control that many of them walk in with the consequent abscense of the required vulnerability and transparency that should mark an elder and minister of the Gospel of Jesus Christ.

And I am one of the number that is gifted and called to pastor.

And I would say, based on her recent behavior, Beth Moore is acting more like a pastor and prophet than most of the men I have seen, with some exceptions.

So, I say this with a very cautious, but needed heart.

The Southern Baptist Convention Needs To Repent of the Conventional Wisdom

A report from February by the Houston Chronicle details some 220 men over 20 years assaulted some 700 victims.  My relative is one of those victims.

And unfortunately, the convention might stand to reap judgment for wanting to protect their own reputations, and blaming the victims.

My relative was fired from their position at the church because of this mentality of “protect your reputation”.  That church is reaping the judgment of not just the behavior toward the victim, but also toward their reputation.

And that church has yet to repent for permitting that sin and that serial violation.

Something has to change.  Something has to give.  Because people can only be freely justified (Romans 3:23) if they confess their sins (1 John 1:9).

Enter Beth Moore, Catalyst

It would seem Beth Moore has also found herself in hot water with the powers that be.

She let slip on Twitter that she was preaching on Mother’s Day, and Owen Strachan of Midwestern Baptist Theological Seminary replied that women should not preach in a pulpit on Sunday to the main service, given that is perceived as only the domain of men.

Now, I understand that a great many of my evangelical friends might agree with Strachan and a number of early church fathers that preaching is only the domain of men.

However, I happen to disagree with the incomplete interpretation of the sledgehammer texts of 1 Timothy 2:11-12 and 1 Corinthians 14:34-35, for an army of reasons, including A) the ignorance of their social and historical context, given Corinthian and Ephesian women were often caught up in prostitution and sexual idolatry, B) the Greek verb λαλέω in 1 Corinthians 14:35 which is the most generic word for speaking, C) the absence of the Greek verb κηρύσσω in 1 Timothy 2:11-12 or 1 Corinthians 14:34-35 which is the verb used to show preaching in an authoritative fashion, D) the fact that the text 1 Timothy 2:12 reads “I do not permit” rather than “G-d does not permit” (this is an exhortation of Paul’s for that context, not a command of G-d’s for all time),  E) the examples of numerous women who testified, prophesied, preached, taught, and led (including Deborah, Huldah, Mary Magdalene, Phoebe, Priscilla, and Junia), many of whom were associates of the Apostle Paul.

Focusing on 1 Timothy 2:12

Paul says “I do not permit a woman to teach…”

Let’s look at that phrase.  Teaching is something in the Ephesian church that Paul forbade of women, regardless of the perception.  Given that pulpits did not exist back then, the Southern Baptist position is little more than a tradition of men based on a terrible reading of the text.

Let us show how terrible that reading is by taking that phrase to its logical end.

If Paul forbade women from teaching, then he would have forbade any form of teaching that could be remotely construed as authoritative.  This includes teaching kids, teaching infants, teaching the human spirit, teaching the youths, teaching the women, teaching anyone. Teaching is by its very nature, an exchange from one in authority to one not in authority.  Ephesians 6:1 does not say, “children obey your fathers in the L-rd, for this is right.  Rather it says “children obey your PARENTS” γονεύς, which comes from the verb γίνομαι, which means “I cause to be”, or “I generate.”  So, mothers AND fathers are both implied by that word.  Translation: mothers have authority over male children.

Look, this is a reductio ad absurdum, given to show that the premise is unreasonable.  And Beth Moore’s capacity to teach, among about 80 other women that I can name off of the top of my head who can teach, some of whom received their calling to teach precisely because “the last two men told G-d no” (Joyce Meyer).  And for those of you who want to call out heresy in Joyce Meyer for adhering to prosperity messages, she did apologize effectively for that

If we are silent, the rocks would cry out (Luke 19:40).  If a man were stifled by us, by himself, or by the enemy, do we honestly think G-d could be stopped from raising up a woman to do the thing that man was called to do?  Really?  After seeing the account of Deborah alone, one would hope that we would be more savvy in our reading of the texts.

When men drop the ball and choose to stifle their gifts and the call of G-d, G-d will call women, period.  If men stifle their voices or are forbidden by religious leaders of any Christian denomination or within Judaism, the ROCKS will cry out.  If adults will not speak, the children will speak.  G-d is not slackened that He cannot reach and that He is incapable to using anyone He wants to use.  If the messenger is a woman, then so be it.

Beth Moore is right to be used to call out this foolishness and anemic nonsense, and to continue functioning as the lively, vivacious, articulated and called speaker, teacher, and preacher that she is.

And Now For Dealing With the Sexual Abuse Scandal

I think Moore also, in her response toward’s Donald Trump, has been being prepared by G-d to be used, by her very presence, as an instrument for confronting the fever of perversion and sex abuse that has been allowed to grow in the SBC, in part, because of a rampant denial of the need for deliverance, spiritual warfare, and inner healing that pervades much of the run-of-the-mill status-quo of the cessationist theology of that denomination.

I think we men are being forced to deal with the perversion and sex addiction that grips us by the vessels of pure and holy women like Moore being used so readily and massively by G-d.

And it is about time.

The abuse of my relative, which happened some 26 years ago, and lasted for years, along with all those other baby boys and girls, is being confronted as the Mesmerizing Spirit is being dealt with, and if the SBC does not repent for its foolish behavior in many ways, tolerating and protecting ministers who enable iniquity (generational sin) in the camp rather than dealing with it, the judgment may only increase.

Just a few thoughts, from a man who is tired of covering over the nakedness.

The emperors have no clothes, gang.

And it’s taking women to point this out for us.

And supporting the pervert and perversion on the right is just as noisome as supporting the pervert and perversion or the enabler on the left.

From The Desk of Arthur Burk: Restructuring a Family

Reposted with permission

Arthur writes:

GRRR. . .

“Sally” was a life giver.

Not a bad thing.

Her extended family got used to seeing her as an ATM machine that they could tap at any time, with no credit limit.

Not a good thing.

Sally ran out of emotional and physical energy recently and decided to start limiting the withdrawals people could make from her life.

A really wise thing.

Her extended family is furious at her for making them walk in reality, eating the consequences of their own choices. She has violated the social contract they developed for her, after honoring it for years.

A highly predictable thing.

Now she is sick and is struggling with the lack of dopamine rewards she used to get from enabling, as well as struggling with the label of traitor that her family has put on her.

A really brutal thing.

Breaking out of a co-dependent relationship is tough when you finally find the courage to walk away from the person involved. It is harder than making peace in the Middle East when you have to stay in a family, and train them to embrace responsibility and not shove their junk off on you.

A cruelly complex thing.

Sometimes I think restructuring a codependent family is harder than coming off cocaine.

Sally could use a hug from God today.

And tomorrow.

Since this isn’t going to be over any time soon.

On-point, as usual. We need hugs from the L-rd when we are choosing to be the catalyst for restructuring a dysfunctional family.