Then the L-RD G-d said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper for for him.”
Genesis 2:18 (ESV)
There are two things I would like to discuss here. I will cover this phrase here and the never phrase of interest, “it is not good that the man should be alone;”, I will cover in a future post.
Now, some might be tempted to pull a word study from Strong’s Concordance on עֵזֶר, but I do not usually go into Strong’s for my material. Just personal preference.
So, עֵזֶר is variously translated as “helper”, “helper fit”, “helper suitable for”, “helpmeet”, and the like, I would like to consider a couple of dynamics as to what “helper” and “suitable” can mean.
I think of someone who chips into/brings their cards to the table in support of/brings their tools to/brings their expertise, experience, and design to bear on a situation.
I don’t merely think of someone who is subjugated to a divine lord here. I do not think of Adam as master and Eve as servant.
Rather, someone who is made to fit, custom-built, and capable of helping Adam solve the unique set of problems that he is faced with in the Garden, problems that require another set of hands, reins, heart, mind, and perspective.
Not your “feminine touch”, women, but your godly and womanly strength. Just as men need to develop testicular fortitude, so also women need to develop ovarian fortitude.
Given Eve will be the Life-Giver to all humanity, and Adam will be central to that life, it is mission-critical that they mesh together in design and partnering to solve certain problems.
Another one of the eyes in the “wheel within the wheel” gets brought to bear on the situation at hand.
Likewise, you women, generally are not designed to have a sausage-factory approach to the life of marriage, because your designs are not identical. Not all women are designed to be barefoot and pregnant, and not all woman that are designed for that are designed for that permanently.
Your job is not merely obedience to a prefabricated set of blueprints that some dude or chick created for you. It is to follow the UNIQUE set that was given to you.
And if you let someone tell you what a woman of G-d looks like and they are not plugged in to looking for your unique design with you, they will hand you a design that is of their own POV and you will move into a zone that is not yours with an assignment and a birthright that are not yours.
Ladies, gentleman, the Father knows precisely who you need to be married to.
Your job is not to get ahead or behind that understanding.
Your responsibility is to hunt for your design and walk in it.
If you find your niche, believe me, Father will partner you with someone you were DESIGNED TO BE WITH, if you will allow Him.
A massive problem is that so many people think with their sex organs and never think with their spirits about the kind of partner that will mesh with their design. And so based on a couple of traits they marry and are miserable.
That is not what Father made you for. You must allow your spirit to think and talk to you about what he or she wants in a partner. And then YOU partner with that.
Helpers are made to work in concert one with another. Believers, especially, are responsible to share fox holes one with another. Helpers manage together; they are in business together; they connect one with another; they have a common vision; they provide a safe place and covering fire for one another; and they have understanding, wisdom, and knowledge that complement one another. That is what the Father designed in Eden, and it is our responsibility, especially as the redeemed of the King, to carry his vision for a marriage forward.
It is not merely about whether or not you’re mesh well together when you knock boots, or because you emotionally feel good around one another.
The real question is whether or not together you can accomplish more redemptive Lee and then you can apart.
Just some thoughts.