Month: April 2023

The Process…..And How G-d Wounds and Heals a Marriage

by theparacleteshammer, posted in Biblical Studies/Exegesis, Covenants, Marriage, Matthew, Third Principle

Whelp, the Teacher post is again delayed….But that is okay for the moment.

If you are coming from the previous post in this chain, you will know I just dealt with the Mercy, Spider Man from the Marvel Cinematic Universe, because I love dealing with and analyzing the culture for patterns of the Redemptive Gifts.

Two cuss words ahead….

Reality…..

It’s a difficult thing to grasp….

In fullness…

Frequently, it doesn’t end the way we want it to end.

But, all our curses, and all our pain, and all our offenses, will not change a thing. Our Only one thing present can redeem us, our pain, our offenses, our curses, our janked-up lives.

The Root of Reality….

He sets the lonely in families, but he first does this by giving us battle buddies, partners, lovers, wives, husbands, brothers. Pairs. It takes a couple to make a family. And that couple started, if redemptive, by Father’s initiation, at the Bridegroom’s response, by wooing us to Himself first. And then by enabling us to see reality if we will embrace it. And that may take us embracing a great deal of pain in order to get to reality in fullness.

Families come because Father places us in proximity, and enables us to fight for one another.

And this unity starts and leads to endurance in fullness because husband and wife will fight for one another according to truth and principles. Unity can only come between husband in wife when they will fight for one another first, and then in the context of that, to fight for those given to them. If we stop being foxhole buddies reloading against the real enemy together, then we are fighting with half our fucking resources.

And I am done watching people fight with half their hands tied behind their backs.

I am done watching people insisting on a fighting with a handicap, and resisting the whole of what Father has given us.

You must fight alongside, pointing your weapons at the true enemy.

That’s reality.

Christ does not fight without his bride.

Why would we expect to be able to fight the enemy of our souls without the keeper of our hearts and lovers of our spirits?

In both of my marriages, my wives and I fought on our own.

I have spent 38 years watching couples fight one another with their earned authority or neglecting their earned authority, focusing on one another with their weapons, rather than partnering against the true enemy.

And I am done with this broken-ass paradigm.

If a marriage is to succeed fully, husband and wife must be joined as partners in the fight. Completely.

If there is a division, then that marriage will be hamstrung. Which means G-d must get us to the place of radical interdependency on one another, partnered with the Executing Spirit (whereas Defilement means “to break apart and violate principles”, Holy and Holiness means “to weave together principles to produce change”, and thus, “to execute”; G-d doesn’t just set us apart to leave us in a place, but rather sets us apart TO DO SOMETHING: it’s a number-line and a vector (direction plus motion) not a boundary line like a fence), then the threefold cord can proceed to the set of works for which we were designed.

Gang, you don’t do this without your partner. Which means G-d has to enable partnership.

Russian Epic of Cinderella……

If shoe fits, wear it….

And in this case, the shoes are the shoes from the Armor of G-d, and no they are not called the Shoes of Peace. The Shoes, which parallel the Redemptive Gift of Teacher, are called the Shoes of Readiness.

καὶ ὑποδησάμενοι τοὺς πόδας ἐν ἑτοιμασίᾳ 

And having bound on the shoes of/in readiness/equipment/preparation

Aaaaaannnnddd cue Teacher rant, because I know that gift…..

DISCLAIMER: If you think this is only directed at the Teachers, you are sorely mistaken. I only talk about the Teacher because it is the gift I love and know the best.

The Principle of Responsibility is tied to being ready and equipped and capable of handling the situations in perfection and excellence with a well-thought-out-and-well-revealed strategy from heaven that is multipronged and give consideration to a breadth of factors.

Boy Scout Motto….Be Prepared….

Deliberate, intense, thoughtful, thorough, perfect….

Take the text the knowledge and do what Del Tarr said and allow the Trinity to turn that knowledge into “KNOWLEDGE ON FIRE”.

Teachers, your job is to lead the charge on this, as did the sons of Levi did at the foot of Horeb, and put your sword to your belt and handle business. Reading the law and hoping it will deliver on the thing on which you should be acting with skill and zeal is not sufficient.

You must do that thing yourself.

And those shoes, which are part of the equipment of every believer and follower of Messiah means that each believer must also get ready and be ready.

That flows from a Gospel of Wholeness/Shalom, but the outward quality that shows itself in the EXECUTION is readiness…..and that skill must predominate between couples that are the root of a family.

And readiness is how you establish a kingdom. Are you ready to run and fight and build and move and work with what you have been given.

That is the work of sons.

And just as men can be the Bride of Messiah, women too can be sons. Congratulations, life is uncomfortable for everyone.

Matthew 24:44…

Get ready……

And now, maybe I can get to the Teacher in due course.

How G-d Wounds and Then Heals a Mercy, Part 2

by theparacleteshammer, posted in Design, Fathering, Inner Healing, Redemptive Gifts

I was going to go with a post on the Teacher, but then something struck me from the Marvel Cinematic Universe, and so I had to run with it. So, here goes…

A Bit More On the Mercy From the MCU, and Then, I Promise We Will Get To the Teacher

Of course, I had to go here for a bit, because there is more than I wanted to say about the Mercy, given the material on the gift keeps bubbling up. So, because I analyze the RG’s in pop culture, there is a significant buildup of material that naturally flows. So, here goes…

Yes….the kid is a Mercy….and had the Exhorter for a surrogate/adoptive father…..

And his wound? It’s being presented with the question, “are you enough without the crutches, and the people, and the relationships, and the tricks, and the gifts, and the resources, and everything that is not the L-rd Himself who must alone stand guard over your heart without any additions?”

Because if you aren’t enough without the suit, then you’ll never be enough with the suit.”

When we first meet Peter in the MCU (Captain America: Civil War), we see as a boy with serious confidence deficit. He hides himself from those who love him and blames himself for the bad things that happen around him. In Homecoming and then Far From Home, we come to an individual with not just problems with self-confidence, but also serious legitimacy issues. From Civil War to Homecoming and Avengers: Infinity War and Endgame, there was a deep internal struggle with both his identity, place, and purpose. He did not see himself for what Tony saw in him, even though it took Tony some time to come around to embracing Peter’s inherent value and design, and to father him effectively.

But eventually confidence bloomed and grew in Peter. This deep well took a hit when Tony died. With his father figure gone, he had to develop a different source, and dig a different well.

Unfortunately, this very negative belief about himself that he wasn’t good enough or strong enough to fill Tony’s shoes, led him to give up the resources that Tony gave to him to someone he thought could be trusted. Following that, Beck toyed with him and, because of Beck’s possession of Stark Tech, he was able to fool Peter into questioning the fabric of reality.

Though it was never about filling Tony’s shoes, but filling and walking in his own shoes, and flowing in his design.

Mercies, when their confidence is deeply tested, usually in the area of relationships, may question reality in the worst way. And this will bring them to a crossroads.

They ultimately must come to a place where they rest in the One Thing that will never abandon them, even when everything crumbles around them: the anchoring point of the nature of G-d, Who Is fiercely loving, completely consistent, will not forsake them, and commited to His covenant.

The wounding comes when they are stripped of those things that once brought them confidence, and the healing comes when their internal structure is so aligned with The One Who Is Perfect Reality that the external world deteriorating impacts them in a decreasing fashion. Dependence on the Bridegroom and no one else, not even family, brothers, sisters, fathers, mothers, spouses, close friends, is what stabilizes the Mercy as they grow through the season that threatens to wound them.

As a result of that, the L-rd pushes the Mercy to adopt a capacity to fix their problems piece-by-piece, without crutches, and as a result, they grow to respond to the following challenge.

As a result, they can either grow into what they were made to do, or shrink back, and their legacy be forgotten or picked up by someone else.

Mercies are going to either bloom or crack under pressure, and as a result of staying the course under pressure, something else comes of them. Something really good.

So, if they bloom in adversity, and they respond to the pressure by leaning hard into the L-rd (Proverbs 3:5-6; Isaiah 54:1-16) instead of relationships governing them, they govern their relationships. And to those relationships they add boundaries, which breaks the spirit of codependency.

Biblically speaking, I think about the confidence John got as a Mercy through living on the Island of Patmos, where he wrote the Revelation and then penned his gospel.

Just some thoughts here…..

Now, onto the Teacher….or not really…but that should be the following post…if I can get off my soapbox long enough to execute…

BETTER LATE THAN NEVER: WINDOW OF RECONCILIATION

by theparacleteshammer, posted in Principles

Gang, I did promise to present on this during March, but the unusual set of events that transpired, with reconciliations to multiple friendships, followed by losses of some significant friendships really was not something I was expecting….I received an unusual grace personally and intend to see advancement happen on every level for myself personally and for this group which is something I am stewarding for the King. His agenda….His resources…

Arthur has covered the idea of Window of Reconciliation, but I wanted to cover it in my own language…

So, that said….

1) what is a window of reconciliation generally?,

2) what are they for our purposes, specifically?, and

3) when and how do we access them?

For the purposes of our discussion, I intend to be an extremely practical. I want you to understand so that you can apply this the next time they come around.

Generally speaking, 1) A window of reconciliation is any period of time during which there is an opportunity combined with a Grace for bringing certain elements more cohesively together.

Now, I would not be surprised if they were other windows, that we have not discovered as a tribe.

After all, this is not the Arthur Burk show. We don’t merely sit around and wait like a bunch of consumers for him to tell us what we need to do.

He is very important to our constellation, because he does have a really good grip on the principles, and he does a whole lot of bleeding-edge research.

But I don’t think he wants those of us that affiliate with him to just sit around, waiting for him to come up with things in order to act.

I think he wants us each to walk in the principles, act according to our design, and propagate our own material in collaboration with the King.

Let me build an answer to Point 2, and then I will come back to other windows, possibly existing.

2) As some of you may already know, there are at least four windows that have been discovered.

And they run pretty regularly in accordance with the two equinoxes, and the two solstices throughout the year.

In order, starting with March, they are:

A) Window of Reconciliation With Community (March 10-31)
B) Window of Reconciliation With Land (June 10-30)
C) Window of Reconciliation With G-d (September 10-30)
D) Window of Reconciliation With Destiny (December 10-31)

And with respect to each of those for dynamics, there appears to be a grace to engage with those particular dynamics during those particular times of the year.

3) We answered the when of this question (during the dates in question). How we access them is by intentionally engaging with the principles necessary to build each of those dynamics.

For example, for healthy community, there is a book by Cloud and Townsend called Boundaries. I can recommend other books easily, but for my particular purposes, and my own particular situation, that book has been critical to the building of healthy community and relationships. And with the number of relationships that reactivated this past March, and that I was given access to, paired with the relationship I lost, because boundaries became a major sticking point for whether or not those relationships strengthened or weakened, that book has been central in this season of growth. The book I would recommend also would depend on the nature of the community with which one is dealing. There are books on marriage and family, dating, parenting, you name it.

For reconciling land, there are resources from Arthur if you want to go that route, and also John Loren Sandford. I also recommend taking to someone who is good with discerning land dynamics and structures. Given I do this fairly extensively, and I enjoy working with land, I am able to help in this arena.

But reconciling to land is one of those things we don’t often think of, especially because of the stigma associated with New Age tied to land.

The real problem with people who would assign the label New Age to given practice, is that New Age really boils down to one thing: period. Object of worship. In my particular case, I actually talk to land and plants and structures on land on a fairly consistent basis. And I know with those plants and structures in the land are often feeling at times. If you were to hand me a map of a piece of land, I’m fairly adapter, telling you what sort of structures are on it. And I’ve also worked with portals pretty extensively.

Some others have earned authority in the area of human relationships. And I would also recommend conversations with those sorts of people.

Anyway, these segments of time card windows of reconciliation were made, so that we could interact with those four dynamics, and make some tremendous mileage counts in the arena of growth. Because Father doesn’t just want us to heal and deliver; He also wants to see us grow.

Anyway, those are some initial thoughts. I look forward to your questions, comments or other thoughts.

Also, as to the dynamic as to whether or not, there are other windows…. I have begun experimenting with the window of reconciliation of 10 days on either side of Halloween to see if there is any thing that takes. I could be imagining things, or there could actually be something there.

Be blessed.

Thrown for a Loop: An Addendum To the Previous Post on The Gospel of Desire

by theparacleteshammer, posted in Biblical Studies/Exegesis, Matthew

When the King gives you an opportunity, tools, training, and vision, there are some options in which you can engage with those things:

1) complain about what seems to be missing.

2) leave aside His input entirely.

3) continue with what you have in hand and ask His counsel along the way.

4) build something with those items.

5) consult your spirit about what he or she wants to do with those.

6) write out a plan.

7) brainstorm.

8 ) fly by the seat of your pants.

9) consult with your friends about the situation.

10) wait and discern the timing.

11) develop a strategy with the tools while we wait.

12) ponder waiting for further resources.

13) wait and rest while giving our whole person time to catch up to where the L-rd has placed us. 

14) Reorient

15) Leverage what we have to something greater

A few days ago, I posted from The Paraclete’s Hammer, my website, a blog post on εκβάλλω, the Greek word employed by John Mark, who wrote the earliest Gospel.

It describes Yeshua getting thrown or driven into the wilderness by the Spirit, following His baptism and evoking the Father’s pleasure. It is possible, given Messiah’s full humanity, that He needed to take a moment and reorient Himself to His new surroundings.

And the same holds true for us.  When we are disoriented, we need to take stock and assess.  Maybe even develop a plan. And that’s not just a plan for in the wilderness with survival. It’s a longer-term plan for the seasons beyond the wilderness.

Sometimes, we turn waiting in a passive thing, which is fine if we need to rest and recoup and we are  a touch disoriented about the plan going forward.

However, waiting can also be an active exercise, depending on the needs of the season.

Waiting can be a developing season.

Removal of junk, clarifying of perspective, removal of obstacles, distillation of identity.

So, if you are thrown, ponder what the King has for you.

The Gospel of Desire: Part 9; Matt. 4:1 _______ By the Spirit, The Spirit’s Desires, And He Does Not Always Gently Lead Us

by theparacleteshammer, posted in Biblical Studies/Exegesis, Matthew

“Then Jesus was led up by the Spirit into the wilderness to be tempted by the devil.”

Matthew 4:1 (ESV)

You know, gang, there is a word in this verse that I like to look at, especially because of the Markan account’s differentiation.

Gang, sometimes there is a wilderness….

And sometimes there is a gentle leading….

This wilderness and temptation is not that gentle leading stuff, and this is also not necessarily tender and affectionate. This is εκβάλλω.

See the Mark account, which is the language of a Prophet. Mark was, in the language of some, taking down the recountings of Peter, who always entered a room mouth-first. Peter, as a Redemptive Gift Prophet wasn’t know for his gentleness, but rather his boldness. And in Jesus retelling of his wilderness experience, Peter got the sense that the King wasn’t being tensely led out or slowly led out, as a bridegroom does for their bride.

The Spirit immediately drove him out (threw him out) into the wilderness.

Mark 1:14 (ESV)

“Drove”, or, as the Greek says, “thrown out”, which is the same word used when Yeshua talked about throwing out demonic entities.

Yes, this was a fathering approach. It was this dynamic pregnant with “get thee thence eftsoons”. Without delay, with purpose.

Gang, yes, this isn’t the kind language of Hosea, “who is this coming up from the wilderness leaning on her Beloved?”. And there is a time and a place for soft and gentle language and action. But there is also a time for us to get thrown into situations that the King knows will make us uncomfortable.

So, as squishy as He might make you, and as lovesick as His interacting with you might make you, those memes about the L-rd will never push you, drive you, are simply untrue.

They are memes, which is why they make a quick attention grab, but they are usually trite and overused.

Also, rememeber (pun intended), this getting thrown is to a specific purpose. Truly, the L-rd may suddenly move you into a place, and you will feel a driving force. He may order a separation or a push that He won’t tell anyone else about.

And it can look or feel like an internal drive or an external drive.

Or He might assign to you a task with a specific timeframe, and tell you to get cracking on it.

But, be encouraged, because there will be wild beasts there to connect with and malakim to minister living water. 

And that season will feel full of focussed intensity. As in the case of Yeshua, it was 40 days.

As each of these masculine seasons ought to.