Didina Batmelek, a precious friend and one of my sisters, writes:
Rant alert.
Brothers, dont call me a sister in Messiah unless you plan to treat me like one.
When my little brother and I get together there are hugs and noogies and jokes, wrestling and sitting and talking till 3am about deep heart issues in each other’s lives. I miss him terribly when we do not connect and I love his beautiful wife and my nieces and nephews incredibly.
My husband is never jealous when I spend time with my brother. He never worries that something is going to happen. He never worries about infidelity. I mean seriously… Ewwww that is my brother……. he smiles and cherishes when I get to see him and he rejoices with us.
When my husband goes out with his little sister, there is no jealousy or worry that something could happen. It is his little sister for crying out loud!!!!
Can we all go out for coffee together or have both my brother and his wife over? Abso-freaking-lutely!! But it is not a requirement for relationship.
If we actually viewed each other accordingly, as actual family and brother and sisters in Messiah, there would never be an issue with sexual infidelity or jealousy or worry.
And, yes, I do understand that people do the wrong thing and there is a very disgusting reality if incestuous relationships within families, BELIEVE ME I UNDERSTAND.
BUT that didn’t mean that we should let the enemy’s twisting of what is good and right in the eyes of Messiah, create a path of fear for us to walk instead.Fear rules the heart of the church and I am so flippin sick of it. I’m sick of how it plays out in nearly every aspect of the church life to the point that it isn’t church “life” anymore, it is dying and people within the church body are dying for lack of relationship.
We need to be the true version of what the enemy has twisted in the world. Where families lie broken and shattered around us, we need to become TRUE FAMILY.
Stop cowering in fear and start acting like a family United in Yeshua Messiah and HUG EACH OTHER. Take each other out for coffee no matter what gender you or they are. Daughters need fathers just as much as mothers. Sons need mothers just as much as fathers.
SHOW TRUE AND UNHINDERED LOVE!!