Article from this week.
Sci. American
Could MPD explain life, the universe, and everything?
In 2015, there was a woman who had blind alters that were not using the sight centers of the brain.
There is this other thing that knows stuff, that operates in the brain that does not leave the same footprint in the brain that we do not usually.
Malcom Gladwell: Blink
The last generation of DID therapy went sideways and toxic.
Therapists are supposed to be healers, not wounders.
Let me show you what went wrong and how we can work together in am more functional, effective manner.
Become learners, not learned.
Freud was committed to mystique.
The detachment between clinician and client has contaminated our modality.
Every single pack of woundedness is different.
Clinician and client need to be partners in this journey together, rather than the clinician being the expert, like Freud, detached and acting upon the client.
Every single session is a new discovery session.
Our learnedness, becomes our greatest liability rather than our greatest asset.
John Wimber said, come to every new deliverance session with an empty toolbox.
We have damage because the therapist does not know that every day is a new day, and this is a new time for each session.
Sonship and Bridal Identity
Sonship is taking the initiative.
In the silences of G-d, use some principles, get up and do something.
In the bridal position, wait for the Bridegroom and respond.
Bridal position is a journey. What today might be like versus yesterday.
We have to move between taking initiative, and waiting.
Move from active, sonship, fix a problem, to watching and waiting, and seeing what the L-rd is going to do.
In the traditional modalities, it has been very heavy-handed sonship.
And that has caused damage.
We need to use both.
We need to do the dance.
Being a healer is extremely contrary to our design in many ways.
Have you seen a waitress with a tray above her head and moving above the crowd?
Knee-kickers.
Staring at computers and coding.
Violation of designs.
Five Areas to Embrace as healers that are contrary to our design
1) Powerlessness: We like power.
2) Lack of Safety: We appreciate safety.
3) Lack of Closure: We like closure. We like night to day, work to play, open to close, we like finish lines.
4) The Solitude: We are broadly made for community, and we are not allowed to share. The most intensely wonderful and intensely negative experiences have to be celebrated in private.
5) The Lack of Validation: We are designed by G-d to relish validation. Healers love to give validation. From their point of view, today is ugly. For us as therapists, there is always the “yes, but”. Often, the only validation you will get is in eternity, not in time.
Personality changes can occur in the therapist. They become melancholy.
Addiction
Sickness
Those five things are soul issues.
If we don’t grieve properly, we will find compensation in our soul and body.
We were designed to find compensation in our spirits.
Our spirits were designed to carry us.
G-d trains us to respond to him through his initiative. This is the bridal position.
So we must be aware of our grief and try to pinpoint the source and allow our bridegroom to lead us through the journey of grieving so we work through it. If we don’t work through or allow the grieving process, don’t you think the grief can lodge and fester into depression, frustration, and possibly rage? The source of the wound sometimes hides itself, particularly when it might be perpetuated in one we look up to. Unraveling our automatic responses to certain types of situations is complex, but by the grace and assistance of our bridegroom, unravel it to the point of deciphering it…to the point of being delivered, to the point of being healed. But we must be aware, lest it become a thorn once again.